I’ve mentioned before that the last year was a little rough for me. I have been pregnant or nursing for almost 12 year straight, and having that portion of my life over has been rough. I kind of simply quit, quit taking care of myself, because what was the point? I’m at that stage now where I spend a lot of my day in the car, dropping my kids of, picking them up, taking them to activities, waiting in the car. And when I’m not in the car I’m at home, laundry, dinner, dishes, cleaning (blogging).
I let my love of clothes, fashion and make up go and wore my pj’s almost every day. I just didn’t bothering to get ready for the day, it kind of felt like “what’s the point”. Seriously because there wasn’t anything to bother getting ready FOR! BUT when I got called a MAN 3 times in one month I realized something had to change (YES you read that right, a MAN, once I got called a DAD). My self confidence was at an all time low!
There IS someone to get dressed up for, MYSELF! Sitting around in my PJ wasn’t helping me feel better, in fact it was making it worse. I decided that even if I didn’t feel like it simply the act of getting dressed and making myself feel special by doing my hair and make up would help me! AND it has, it has helped a lot. A few weeks ago the amazing Megan from Brassy Apple came over and helped me “shop your closet”.
She came to my house and went through my closet to help me the clothes I already own in a different way! A new way to wear it, refashion it, upcycle it or GET RID OF IT! After 5 kids my body isn’t what it was, and while I could care less about my weight (don’t even own a scale), BUT I did need some help dressing my current body.
We went through my whole closet and here are some of the tips I learned. BE BRAVE, try something new. I am very self conscious of my large breasts. I want to wear clothes that show my womanly body shape, but not overly show off my chest. So I tend to stay away from trends that bring any attention to that area, like scarfs and belts. BUT with some encouragement from Megan I totally tried it! She suggested looser pants with this more fitted top!
Next for me was COLOR, as in don’t be afraid to mix colors (or wear color, I own mostly black with very little color)! I used to go too matchy matchy. On the left is adding colorful accessories to an outfit with Megan’s help and on the right how I would have worn it without her help. The added pop of color in the necklace and shoes and it takes it from “fine” to a more complete, less boring blah, look!
This was was the biggest for me LAYERS and ACCESSORIES. On the right, BORING, shirt and pants, fine, I’m not in PJ’s and I’m wearing a bra (improvement), but adding the scarf, sweater, headband (and cute new boots) takes it from “clothes” to an outfit! And I love it! All things I already had but had never put together!
So I made a goal not to wear PJ’s during the day for a month! Even the day’s I “just” take my kids to school and come right back home all day I still get dressed, do my hair and put on make up. AND it has totally helped! Taking the time to time to take care of myself has been wonderful! My self confidence is back up, and I feel better in every other area as well!!
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Love it all! Especially that first look!!
thanks! It was probably the one I was most nervous about, but I really like it now!
marissa | Rae Gun Ramblings
Oh I love the looks. I was totally admiring you rocking that great scarf the other night. I so so get the whole not getting dressed thing, it’s like I know it but then when I go back to “getting ready” it’s not like it took so long and the way it makes me feel is priceless. Yay for getting out of the funk
thanks! I didn’t have an issue with the whole pj’s all day after the first 4, but this last one, mixed with my busy life and it has been so easy to be lazy and hard to get out of the funk.
Jill @ BeingSpiffy
You’re gorgeous girl. For reals.
You are amazing and beautiful and I love these new looks!! Amazing!
Thanks so much! It’s been so nice to feel a bit better about myself lately.
Aimee @The Stylish Nest
You look great! I need to pull myself out of my clothing rut too. This post has inspired me. 🙂
I’m so glad! This clothing rut has been hard, It’s nice to feel refreshed and renewed lately
Yeah!!!! your post looks great but better yet your pictures do! I can see a changed women 😉 Can’t wait to read more about this series! Your combinations are wonderful! Getting dressed for the day you want to have or the person you want to be slowly helps to change our own perspective on ourselves. YOu are definitely on the road to change! 🙂
Thank you so much, AGAIN! I have had a few pj days still, but for the most party making myself get ready and dressed has been so soothing.
Alexis @ We Like to Learn as We Go
I love these outfits! Isn’t it amazing what a little color and accessories can do?
TOTALLY! Now I just need to add color and accessories to my house too! Apparently I’m minimal in everything I do (except cakes), this has actually inspired me to do more decorating as well, bring my environment out of it’s rut!
I totally get it, I don’t wear make-up, and their are days that I don’t get dressed, I have made a point of having more than just tshirts in my closet, so I can wear nice shirts just because. I’d say my waist length hair makes me feel feminine etc that my husband has longer hair than me:D Taking the time to DO my hair makes me feel special and less blah.
my husbands hair is longer than mine too, but that’s because mine is so short! And I agree, less blah is what I’m going for these days. it’s amazing how something as simple as a shower and getting dressed can make you feel
You have an amazing bodyshape – don’t be afraid to show what you got! I wish I would look like this and had so much boobs left after just ONE child…
awww thanks! I wish I had LESS breasts after my 5 kids! My sisters started out small and got smaller, I started out large and got larger! GAH! seems backwards!
First off Ashlee, you are a beautiful person. 🙂 I miss getting together this year!
I think all mom’s go through what you’re talking about. We get so caught up in taking care of everyone else and one day realize somewhere along the way we stopped taking care of ourselves. When we start dressing in a way that makes us feel good, it shows how much we love who we are.
exactly, getting caught up with taking care of everyone else is so easy to do. And I missed seeing you this year too! So sad that EVO got cancelled, are you going to any other conferences?
The only conference I’m planning on attending is a writing conference next year. Life is a little “topsy turvy” for me right now. I’m working full time and still trying to adjust to doing everything else I’m used to doing. My blog is definitely suffering. But overall life is good!
I totally get that, my blog suffers all the time as it gives way to real life! Sometimes it’s hot sometimes it’s forgotten! maybe next year!
The last one is my favorite because it’s something I could totally pull off! 🙂 But Love all the looks and agree with the others. I’ve always thought you are so beautiful and brave, so I love reading this post! 🙂
Thank you so much April! I’m still experimenting with looks but I think I’m on the right path to feeling better about myself!
Ashlee, You look amazing! I loved reading this post. I have some of the EXACT same issues. My boobs and I have had a rocky relationship. And I avoid scarfs and things. I am overweight right now so I don’t feel like trying very hard. Plus I spend most days in bed…so jammies are appropriate. I just LOVE your goal of getting dressed every day. Maybe that’s a goal I should have on the horizon. You really do look amazing. And THIN! I love the long striped sweater. LOVE! (and I usually avoid stripes too because my boobs stretch them out) Anyway, whatever demons you are facing…All my love to getting over them! You can do it!
One day at a time somedays. I have been doing better, getting dressed every day makes such a difference emotionally, but I still have bad days/weeks (today was the third PJ day this week). I admire you so much, to keep going with both emotional and physical pain is incredible. Seriously, you are amazing and so strong. I hope your pain doesn’t last much longer.